Being in a relationship is never easy.
No matter how much you love each other we are all different people with different childhood experiences and different past that shaped us. Whether you have been together for a long time or are in a relatively new relationship, being part of a couple can be challenging.
Many of us wait for love for a long time and when we finally get it, we perhaps imagine a ‘movie like’ experience – lots of fantastic communication, romantic gestures, real emotions, tactile contact and more… But of course, once the initial euphoria starts to cool off, the humdrum of life sometimes gets in the way, and the romance can quickly be drowned out by work schedules, petty arguments – like whose turn it is to take the rubbish out – or squabbles over money, lifestyle choices, friends etc.
If you are feeling a bit neglected or taken for granted, maybe it is time to seek the advice of one of our relationship couple therapists. Online Therapy 247 platform has a number of experienced marriage counsellors, relationship psychotherapists and marriage coaches who can provide relationship help and love advice.
Talk through why you are stuck in a rut, why negative patterns are being repeated and what you can do to shake things up and get back on course.
What is Couples Counselling?
Couples counselling has helped many people to repair and reinforce their relationships with their partners. Also known as marriage counselling and marital therapy, it is designed to ensure both partners feel their opinions have been heard and respected.
Common relationship problems
Relationship counselling can also help people who are struggling with issues like parenting, substance abuse, work-related stress and more. This form of relationship therapy and counselling has saved many relationships and reduced domestic stress levels substantially. Many people who use couples counselling feel more positive about their relationships once they have received relationship therapy.
This is what couples therapy can actually solve
Many couples opt for relationship counselling after experiencing a stressful period in their lives. Pregnancy and childbirth, money problems, lifestyle differences, sexual issues like infidelity and mismatched sex drives, bereavement, intimacy issues and unemployment can all put relationships under strain. When people are in a healthy relationship, they tend to perform better in other areas of their life such as work. They tend to eat and sleep better and are less likely to experience depression and anxiety. The global pandemic has also caused many couples to seek relationship counselling, with lockdown having forced people to spend an extraordinary amount of time with their partners.
It’s important for a relationship to grow and change
No matter how exciting your relationship was at the beginning, everyday life and the challenges that come with it can leave things feeling stale and repetitive. The nature of relationships can change dramatically over time as partners mature and reach other stages of their lives. Even when partners’ needs, habits and interests change, this does not have to spell the end of the relationship. Many successful long-term relationships have seen huge changes over the years.
Improve the quality of family life
Couples counselling can vastly improve the quality of family life and have a positive effect not just on the couple but those around them too, including their children and other loved ones. No couple should feel ashamed at using relationship counselling to help them overcome their problems. Long-term relationships can be very challenging and require a great deal of commitment and compromise. When a relationship has reached a certain stage, one or both partners may start to feel disillusioned, bored and unappreciated. Couples counselling aims to address this.
Examining your relationship
Many couples use relationship counselling to gain a different perspective on the relationship problems they are facing. Counselling can encourage partners to work together to overcome problems rather than blaming each other for them. A professional couples counsellor will aim to improve communication and help both partners to address their issues in a healthy, calm manner. Other issues which may lead to counselling being sought out include abuse, mistrust, secrets, control and unhealthy influences from outside of the relationship. Many people develop depression and anxiety after helping their partner through their own mental health challenges. This is another common reason for contacting a couples counselling service.
What to expect from counselling
Many counsellors will see the couple as a treatable unit rather than focussing on the individuals in question. However, they may recommend one-to-one counselling in some cases if they think they require this kind of treatment. When counselling relationships gets underway, the therapist will ask questions about the relationship and the sources of conflict. Once they have identified issues that need to be addressed, they will develop goals to help them overcome them. Couples counselling is a solution-focused treatment that aims to give partners a better understanding of each other. A homework element may be introduced to help couples address their problems as they arise.
Who goes to couples therapy?
Couples counselling is used by people from all walks of life. This includes couples of all ages and ethnicities. It is not just for married couples. It can help cohabiting couples, engaged couples and couples who are still at the dating stage. After counselling has taken place, couples may feel more equipped to tackle their problems in a much less hostile and confrontational manner. Partners may learn how to be assertive without becoming angry or causing offence. They may feel more able to accept their partners’ flaws, become more honest and more able to trust. Partners may feel less eager to isolate themselves or avoid the other person. They may feel more comfortable about airing their views and less likely to keep them to themselves.
How can couples therapy benefit us?
Although couples counselling sessions cannot fix every issue or save every relationship, it does have a great track record. Counselling is more likely to be successful if both parties are happy to be involved and open with their therapist. If one partner is more committed than another, it may not be as effective as it could be. When goals are clear and relatively easy to achieve, counselling is more likely to be effective.
How we can help
At Online Therapy 247, we can help if you are considering using confidential couples therapy to strengthen your relationship. Contact us today to find out more about what our accredited DBS checked therapists can do for you.