This year has undeniably been a time where relationships have been affected in one way or another by the Covid-19 pandemic and lockdown. For some, it may have been a beneficial time where relationships have flourished as partners spend time together 24/7. For others, not being able to have their own space and some alone time, has inevitably presented struggles and challenges.
In a sense, we have been forced to spend every minute together and while we assume this shouldn’t be an issue if we are in a partnership, it has raised many concerns for people who are used to having a bit of time to themselves. For families, they have not only had to balance their relationship, but also work and home-schooling within the four walls of their home.
It’s important to acknowledge that lockdown will affect your relationship in one way or another. We may need to consider a few things that will help support our relationships to work through this difficult time.
Working from Home
If you’re both working from home, ensure you are working in separate rooms or at least have your own space so you can focus and give each other space during the day. This will not only be beneficial for your working environment and the tasks you need to get done, but it will also give you some alone time. At the end of a working day, ask how each other’s day was, discuss the events of the day if needed, then try to switch off from work.
This pandemic has certainly caused many of us to feel anxious and stressed. If you’ve had additional worries such as health, your job or financial security, these stresses and strains will inevitably impact your relationship. Be open with each other, communicate, listen to each other and talk through anything that is worrying you.
Give Yourselves Space
Whether it’s having a long soak in the bath, sitting in a separate room to read your favourite book, going for a walk or catching up with your best friend on the phone, appreciate that you will both need a bit of time alone. Giving each other space will keep your relationship healthy. Take up meditation, yoga or something similar which helps you to relax, also benefitting your mental health.
Weekly Date Nights
Date nights may have gone out the window as other things may have taken priority, but if you can arrange the odd special evening together, it will do wonders for your relationship. Cook your favourite food, do a virtual experience together such as an art exhibition or a concert, be creative in inventing something a bit different to bring in some variety, fun and memories to reignite the romance.
Looking after yourself during this time, recognising your needs and caring about how you feel mentally, emotionally and physically, will empower you to then be able to nurture your relationship. Putting yourself first will give you the capacity to be open and loving in your relationship. If we keep worries, anxieties and concerns to ourselves, we naturally put up a barrier to others, especially our nearest and dearest.
Keeping in Touch
Keeping in touch with the outside world, friends and family will keep you both connected. Some may feel happy and settled in our bubble, but catching up with friends and family via phone or video call brings in another dimension to our days at home. Arrange a family quiz by video, have a catch up with your best friends on Zoom and make sure you are staying in touch and reaching out to others regularly.
Check in on your Mental Health
Many people have struggled with anxiety during this year and lockdown has exasperated feelings of isolation, emphasising fear and a sense of loss of control. You are not alone if you’re feeling like this and perhaps it helps to know others are feeling the same, but it’s important to acknowledge it and get the support and help you need. Many of our therapists have spoken to people who have felt anxious during this time, and even just one session has changed their outlook, having a positive influence on their relationship and life in general.
It’s fairly normal to have struggles in your relationship right now. This year has taken an unexpected turn and the majority of people have faced challenges in one way or another. If you need somebody to talk through your feelings with you, we are here to help. Our therapists and counsellors are experts in relationship counselling, anxiety and all the daily challenges we are faced with right now.